Where do you come from?

What would I do? Every time an American or a European that asks me the question: “Where do you come from?”. I would automatically answer him: “I am from Jordan”. Feeling proud for announcing the name of my country.
But, many of those whom I talk to just won’t show up again after they know where I come from. They are afraid from my country, to be more precise, afraid from any thing coming out from the (peaceful) Middle East.
What shall I do? It really puts me down. Shall I lie? “Oh! I come from China.” or Poland, or any other not Middle eastern country. It is really a tricky question, it has a small answer, but an answer that carries bigger connotations.

What does it mean to deny the country where you come from? To deny your origin. Furthermore, to deny the place where you, your parents, and your ancestors lived all their lifes. And as the Jordanian saying reads: “Only those who are Bastards deny their origin!”. But most importantly, not to be able to force others to respect you the way you are. In other words, not to wear any mask of deception and lying.

I am saying all of this after talking via the Skype to a Spanish guy who accepted to talk to me in the first place because he wanted to practice his English, he called me. After the “Hi” and Hello, he asked me the bloody question:” Where do you come from, Jameel?” He said it with the normal funny tone he had been talking with since he called.
“I am from Jordan!” I answered confidently, forgetting the problem that I always had when mentioning where I come from, especially to those from the upper world, from the so-called: first world.
“Oh! Oh! Jor… Jorda… dan” He repeated as if he heard the weirdest thing ever. His tone changed drastically and he became sick of the conversation as if we had been talking for ages.

Throughout the rest of the 15 minutes I spent with him, I was always the one to start a talk, because he remained silent as if he wants me to infer: “Just go away! Why didn’t you tell me that you are from the fucking Middle East from the beginning?! Why?”.

This one-side conversation lasted what it lasted, then he asked: “Do you log on often to the internet?”. He asked a question that doesn’t lack cunningness.
_”Yes! Somehow!” I answered him not knowing the aim of his question.
_”Then, I will see you later! I gotta go now!”
_”OK… Bye” I said it with the tone like I am some kind of a sub-human being.

Anyway, if this guy calls again, it shows that he is not what I think of him (How naive person I am just to write this sentence!). If not, a sign of how shallow he is, the only thing that I would lose is a “thing” that could improve my English. What is more, I couldn’t expect too much from an Agnostic, those people don’t have any set of ethics to go by!

I will put the meaning of (agnostic) just to my knowledge, ’cause I strongly assume that Mr. Mazen knows what it means. Don’t you know what it means?


Agnostic: noun a person who believes that nothing is known or can be known of the existence or nature of God. (Concise Oxford English Dictionary)

5 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Mazen on 08/09/2007 at 14:08

    Dude, you are facing the same problem that I face every time I sign in to one of (the chat sites)….it is really a big problem….No one wants to speak to me just because of my nationality.
    FYI Greeks are so permissive(not like other people)….they shut the chat after 20-30 min.!!!…Just try them!.
    *’Agnostic’….I really don’t know what does it mean….it is new for me…



  2. Posted by Dr. Jameel on 08/09/2007 at 16:57

    loooooooool… the Greek thing… What is the solution in your opinion-if there is!-?!


  3. Posted by Mazen on 08/12/2007 at 03:44

    The only solution?!!….Ok, I made this experiment (you will laugh at me!!) on 3 people, two polish’s and an italian, who I met them on the netlog….
    I told them that I am from Jordan BUT living in USA!!…..and guess what?! they continued talking with me until I(je,soy,Ich…) cut the chat off…do you believe it!!!…I think these people are dazzled in the american life-style to a point made them forget what is my nationality!!….what do you think?!!


  4. Posted by Dr. Jameel on 08/12/2007 at 10:04

    I am know thinking what to respond… My modest point of view in my post was that one shouldn’t deny (their) origin. Certainly you are doing not doing so ’cause you simply stated that you come from Jordan. However, you lied about living in the USA. hmmmm… That needs a big (fatwa)!!! While I have to admit that your solution is the sweetest of too many sour solutions. I need that your plane needs a little refinement to be perfect.
    One more thing, what a hilarious image is that one of you trying to convince those people that you are no longer free and that you need to go! lol…

    BTW, concerning the article on alrai.com… Thanks, it is really beautiful. Know what, I am gonna start sending you good articles or jokes I find, English ones of course. What do you think? Will you do the same so as I improve my English and you to giggle and cheer up?!


  5. Posted by Mazen on 08/12/2007 at 12:19

    I think your idea,concerning the articles’ subject,is very good….especially english ones…it will be so great. Both of us will take advantage from it…

    good luck,


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